We all want to be happy, right?
So, what’s stopping us from being happy? Bills, jobs, weather, body fat… Your list might look different, but I’ll bet there are some similarities. I hear this all the time “I’ll be happy when I get “the weight” off”. The weight. The weight. It is bigger than life. It is the source of all evil in our lives. The weight.
To me, “the wait” is the problem. I hate waiting. Stop lights, doctors, mail, etc. You name it, I hate “the wait”. But, what can be done about it?
The first thing that needs to be accepted is acceptance. The only reason we are displeased with something is because we have expectations of something else. When I go somewhere, I want to go there. I don’t want to sit at a stop light for four minutes. When I decide to lose “the weight” I want it gone, now. But that is not reality and if we think it is, then we will be disappointed and frustrated and unhappy.
Why not be happy?
What if you are eating right and exercising frequently and are ready to be a healthy fit person? I have heard the following more times than I can count “I have been working out really hard and I don’t see any progress”. However, with further digging I am able to determine that this person has seen progress, but it is not as fast as they’d like in a month. However, “the weight” was not deposited on their body overnight and it’s not going to come off that quickly either. The truth is fat can gather quicker than it can be burned off. So patience must be exercised, as well as the body, to allow the fat to be used. Diligence to healthy and sensible eating, daily vigorous physical activity and the right attitude are all needed for permanent fat loss.
Besides that, what can be done to be happy before we reach our goal? First of all acceptance is top priority. We must first accept that the process WILL take time. There is no shortcut or magic potion to fat loss. Any diets or drugs or devices that make you believe otherwise are not healthy or long lasting. You may lose weight on a diet, but you will gain it back. I have a sign on my wall that says “Dieters Never Win”. Have you ever met one that did?
Who Are You?
Another thing that you should accept is who you are and how you are. This does not mean you should give up. I don’t mean that at all, not even a little. But, hinging all your happiness on your desire to lose your excess body fat is not healthy nor is it realistic. Genetics plays a huge role in your physique. You can improve, but you cannot change beyond what your genes allow.
How Are You?
I used to want to have six-pack abs. I worked really hard for years. I was very lean and ate very well and had strong abs, but I never had a six-pack. I was a personal trainer and this was embarrassing. I helped my clients develop six-packs, but not me. I felt very bad about myself. I finally accepted that it was not in my genes and gave that goal up. I didn’t give up on being fit, strong and lean, but I was much happier not having that constant barrel of rocks hanging over my head, or that feeling of failure. It was really a big relief once I made the decision to accept how I was built. “I’m good. This is how I am.” I didn’t change my habits after that, but I was much happier knowing that I wasn’t working for impossibility.
The Bottom Line
Find the inner peace in yourself. Find the love. You are beautiful, handsome, smart, and interesting. Accept your body as it is and strive for living with good, healthy habits. If you live healthy, you will be healthy. If you think positive, you will feel happier. The fat will gradually disappear as your body realizes it doesn’t need it anymore. Once you are happy with yourself, and accepting of yourself, everything else will be much easier, and happier.