Many of us chase peace and how to become more relaxed in everyday life. We know stress is bad for us, we know that acting and reacting with a negative mindset can often lead us to think in harmful ways, and we understand that in order to better ourselves, we need to make the effort. But all of your self-improvement can often become stuck when dealing with conflict. We might only see conflict now and then, and when it becomes present in our lives, we can find ourselves slightly unequipped. Does this mean your efforts towards becoming a better person are meaningless? No, far from it.
But it does mean that we should also try to improve ourselves in that area. To that, we must quote Roosevelt’s foreign policy ‘speak softly, but carry a big stick.’ This is the same ethos that any martial arts master uses. They will do everything they can to avoid a fight unless that is impossible. Of course, that’s a metaphor, and in no way are we going to give you ‘fight advice,’ here. But defending yourself with confidence is important if you hope to be a well-rounded person.
Here’s how you can achieve that:
Realize You Don’t Need All The Answers
Whenever in an argument with someone, or when needing to defend yourself, it can be very tempting to discuss every grievance you have, every reason you have for feeling that way, every problem that you need fixed, and perhaps what you’ll do next. But you don’t need all the answers. Sometimes, simply being more impartial and quiet is a better solution to help you move through things with confidence, and to lessen that otherwise panicked state. For example, if in an argument with another road user, instead of aggressively telling them what they did wrong, what you did to counteract that, and how silly they are in stronger language than necessary, simply and calmly asking for their insurance information and contact details, and noting down their license number can do the job. You can translate this ethos to most other conflicts of your life.
Seek Impartial, Legal Help
It can often be that seeking the right legal counsel can help you avoid making a fool of your current legal understanding, and instead give you the tools to defend yourself with the experts at your side. Hupy and Abraham’s personal injury lawyers can help you build the strongest case, and with allies like this at your side, you needn’t rely on the showboating defence you might have otherwise gone with.
Become More Assertive
It’s important to be able to hold good posture, to speak reliably and slowly, and to be more forthright about the forward route you are going to embody. When you have this in mind, you are much more able to care for the end result, and be able to truly express what you are thinking and mitigate the fear that might come when being aggressively spoken to.
With these tips, you’ll defend yourself with much more confidence.